Compiled by Christina Burton, Safe House Case Manager
My name is Tanya and I’m a survivor of domestic violence.
If you have some time, allow me to share my story. I have endured verbal and physical abuse for most of my life. Through the years, the abuse created issues with low self-esteem and at times deep depression. I received this treatment from those I held the closest to me; my family. At the age of 32, I found myself pinned up against the wall, clinging to my daughter and having a barrage of profanities thrown at me. As I closed my eyes hoping for this nightmare to end, I thought to myself, “How did this happen?” The baby brother I once considered to be so sweet became my abuser. Feelings of fear have replaced feelings of love.
I finally said to myself, “This has to stop! I have to bite the bullet and leave. Where will I go?” I quickly packed what I could for my daughter and myself and fled for our safety!
The Turning Point
I was terrified because I hadn’t had any previous shelter experience but pushed through my fears and called the Domestic Abuse Project of Delaware County’s 24/7 crisis hotline and was accepted into their safe house. Once I arrived, I was greeted by an individual I saw as a super woman: my case manager. She provided me with so much positive energy, encouragement and support that I finally felt safe. Above all, I felt an overwhelming sense of relief.
Through free resources provided by DAP, including, case management, SELF support group, individual counseling, family advocacy and relocation assistance, I found the courage to dig deep enough to take the necessary steps to change my and my daughter’s life for the better.
Having a safe place to stay, along with the support the staff at DAP provided me with important resources that empowered me to achieve my goals of maintaining our safety and gaining my independence. At the end of this journey, I’m proud to say that I have the keys to my own home. I’m finally free.
If you or someone in your community is suffering from domestic violence, please contact our 24/7 crisis hotline at 610-565-4590 for support and resources.